Dear Annie: Rekindling Romance
Saturday, April 06, 2024
Dear Annie: I've recently reconnected with a former co-worker with whom I had lost track of after her first husband committed suicide. She divorced her second husband when she found him in bed with another woman. She has an adult son from her second marriage.
After reconnecting, we've been talking three or four nights a week and finally agreed to go out to dinner with one of her new co-workers and her husband. When we met the other couple at the restaurant, my former co-worker latched on to my hand as she introduced me. As we were walking to my truck to go home, she latched on to my hand again and squeezed it hard enough to get me to stop walking. As I looked at her, she said for as long as we have known each other, she's always wanted to hold my hand and kiss me, and she promptly kissed me on the cheek.
On our drive back to her apartment, she held my hand the entire way while we chatted about different things. She asked me what was wrong, and I said nothing, just that I was thinking about why she wanted to hold my hand and then surprise me by kissing me. We both agreed that cooking for one really stinks and that we both could use that other "special person" at this point in our lives. We both also agreed that, at this point in our lives, we both need some romance.
GET THE LATEST BREAKING NEWS HERE -- SIGN UP FOR GOLOCAL FREE DAILY EBLASTAs we got to her apartment building, she gave me one more hug and kiss on the cheek and invited me in for one beer before I left for home. I accepted. Shortly after bringing the beers, she began playfully tickling me and I did the same, and that led to some serious kissing.
When we finally stopped kissing, I looked at my watch and said I had to go. I told her I had promised a friend I'd ride with him to Lynchburg, Virginia, to deliver some boxes to his daughter who had just moved into a new apartment and I had to be ready to go hit the road when he came to get me at 7:00 a.m. I told her that I had a good time and thanked her for getting me out of the house for something else other than work. We kissed goodnight, and off I went to get some sleep at home.
We tried dating 40 years ago and it didn't click. My question to you is, do I give romance another chance with this woman? -- Pondering
Dear Pondering: It sounds like you and this woman have a lot in common, not to mention chemistry. Have an honest, open conversation with her about what taking the next step looks like, and make sure you two are on the same page. You're both single and looking for your next meaningful, long-lasting relationship -- what's the harm in giving it another go? This could be the start of something beautiful.
Annie Lane is a mother, daughter, sister, and wife.
She grew up in California before heading east at the age of 18. She graduated with honors from New York University, where she majored in English literature and also specialized in psychology. After NYU, she earned her Juris Doctor from New York Law School.
Over the course of her education, Annie held a variety of jobs, including at Barnes & Noble because she loves books. She is a certified yoga instructor who also worked in sales at an internet advertising startup company. In addition, she worked at a law firm for two years and, before that, for a federal magistrate for one year.
Yet no job came more naturally to her than offering common-sense solutions to everyday problems. Her advice is unusually perceptive. She is sympathetic, funny and firm -- and her column is very much like Ann Landers' column in style and substance.
Annie lives outside Manhattan with her husband, two kids and two dogs. After a decade of city life, she is focused on her family and the Dear Annie column. When she is not writing, she devotes her time to play dates and Play-Doh.
"How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?" is out now! Annie Lane's second anthology -- featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation -- is available as a paperback and e-book. Visit http://www.creatorspublishing.com for more information. Send your questions for Annie Lane to [email protected].
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