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Newport Manners & Etiquette: Hatiquette + Wedding Invitations

Wednesday, April 09, 2014

 

Weddings are the perfect occasion to flaunt a fabulous chapeaux. Hat by Newport milliner Lisa Stubbs/Lilo

Easter isn't the only festive time for a lovely hat, weddings are the perfect occasion to flaunt a fabulous chapeaux. More wedding etiquette with common invitation faux pas and a nautical rehearsal dinner dress code. All questions this week to Didi Lorillard at NewportManners.com.

Wedding hatiquette

Is it appropriate to wear a hat to an outdoor wedding that starts at 6:00 PM in Georgia? Jenny, Atlanta

Traditionally, the rule of thumb is that the size of a woman's hat deminshes as the day progresses. Often called a cocktail or dinner hat, a fitted, brimless hat worn in the evening is an accessory that can be part of your ensemble. For instance, the bell-shaped evening cloche can be elegant and sophisticated in a soft fabric, beaded, or lace (worn by a bride) with a delicate embellishment, such as an appliqué, embroidery, or faux jewel. In the evening, you want to stay away from a floppy hat with a brim that would make social kissing awkward and really hard to manage on the dance floor. A small decorative hat is a fabulous fashion statement. Definitely wear one that is fitted (possibly pinned to your hair) and you'll be very chic. Alternatively, you could wear a beautiful fascinator (decorated headband) to a six o'clock wedding in Georgia. ~Didi

Mother-of-the-bride invitation faux pas

My son is the groom. His fiancee's mother wrote out the invitations. On the list I sent her, in the far right column I had included the names that would go on the inside envelope. Well, the invitation ended up not having an inside envelope and she did not include ANY of the names. I called her and she said, "Well, they know that their family is invited." That's how she addressed her invitations as well. My sister called and asked, "Are the boys invited?" Even though she knows they are but could see that something was up with the invite. I think I should send a separate card to those affected. What is appropriate to say...ooops, we made a mistake. Apologize and ask them to include the total number for their family attending on the reply card??? HELP Name withheld

Never over-explain. This wasn't your fault. Likewise, you don't want to be responsible for bad karma by making a big deal out of the faux pas. More than likely, the MOB is overwhelmed by all the many details of her daughter's wedding. In reality, little damage has occurred. Now, you can control it. You only have to attend to the affected guests on your list.

If there is a reply card, guests will fill in the number of family members attending. I might call those guests on your list to say, "We are so hoping that you understand your whole family is invited to the wedding. Just let me know who is coming from your family, so I can tell the mother-of-the-bride." Gently, make it sound like the oversight that it probably was.

Weddings are all abut the memories we create. You don't want to be the person who's responsible for a bad memory. Take control of the situation and contact your close friends and relatives personally to simply say that there was an"oversight." Don't complain about the MOB. Take it from me, I have been there. You need to make the mother-of-the-bride your new best friend. It will not serve you, or your son, if you're disloyal to each other. ~Didi

Rehearsal dinner dress code

I am having a very nice clambake as my rehearsal dinner. I was envisioning men wearing khakis and blazers with Vineyard Vines-like belts and ties (optional) and women wearing pretty sundresses, no flip flops! How should I list the dress code on the invitation? I am worried that people will be underdressed if I put "dressy casual." And worried that if I put "cocktail attire" it will be too over the top... What would you recommend? C.H., Location withheld

You don't want to get too tricky or complicated on your rehearsal dinner invitation. Go with the location, which for a clambake would be nautical and list the dress code as "Jackets and Ties." Guests will get the picture. They'll know they don't have to wear a suit as they would for the dress codes, "Cocktail Attire" or "Suits & Dresses." You don't want to ask too much from from guests, many of whom will have to go to great expense, between the wedding gift, transportation, accommodations, outfits, etc. Don't suggest that they buy a new tie for your clambake.

When you list the dress code as "Jackets and Ties," nobody will wear flip-flops, and the women will dress appropriately. ~Didi

Sending invitations to young adults living at home

How do I address a wedding invitation to my ex-sister-in-law and her two grown children living at home, who are my niece and nephew? M.O., Location withheld

All guests eighteen years old and older receive their own wedding invitation. The exception would be married couples or partners in a committed relationship, who would receive one invitation addressed to both. If the two grown adult relatives are old enough to vote, they are old enough to reply to your invitation themselves. I might add that it is extremely important in terms of headcount that you know whether or not they've committed to attend. Once more, they are more apt to come to the wedding if sent their own invitation. If your niece is eighteen or older, she is addressed as Ms. Your nephew is addressed as Mr. ~Didi

 

Do you have a question for Didi? Visit her at NewportManners.com. We can withhold your name and location. Didi researches etiquette and all matters of manners for her book,"Newport Etiquette." Previous weekly GoLocalProv.com columns may be found by typing in Didi Lorillard in the above righthand search.

 

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